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Patrick Muindi's avatar

Everything ends, and sometimes it starts to end as soon as it begins.

There are plenty of people and things out there that are good for you, but you won't find them - and they won't find you - if you insist on keeping what no longer works.

Thank you for this, Harun.

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Harun Kewa's avatar

Spot on, Patrick. It is important to make space for what is yet to come.

Thanks for the support. I am glad you liked the piece.

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Patrick Muindi's avatar

Welcome, Harun. Also, congratulations on the growth. To 500, 1K, and beyond.

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Harun Kewa's avatar

Thanks a lot, Pat! 🙏🏾

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Mohika Mudgal's avatar

It truly is super hard when someone makes the choice to leave. It's harder when we're on the recieving end of it. But we do it too, we leave people. Sometimes naturally and other times because it's what is best according to us. Doesn't make it easy, you're right! 💯

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Mohika Mudgal's avatar

Omg congratulations to 300 readers!! 🎉 Here's to many more 💝

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Harun Kewa's avatar

Thank you so much, Mo! I really appreciate the support!

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Elizabeth Grace Martinez's avatar

I’m glad you wrote about this. Some of the hardest breakups in my life have been friendships. Sometimes I never got to know why they ended and that lack of clarity is painful. We talk about romantic breakups so much but friendship endings can be worse

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Harun Kewa's avatar

Friendship breakups are so disheartening because you rarely expect the relationship to end. Romantic breakups are somewhat predictable but losing a friend, especially a close friend, leaves a much larger mark on you.

Thank you, Elizabeth.

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Tinashe D. Ndhlovu's avatar

As we age, relationships evolve like our bodies.

Some friendships, like old habits, no longer serve us. Letting go creates space for new connections, much like embracing life's changes.

Age has taught me to value quality over quantity in relationships.

WOW, congrats on 300 subs.

Great stuff, Harun :-)

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Harun Kewa's avatar

Quality over quantity, always. Thank you so much, Tinashe. I truly appreciate the support.

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Shreya's avatar

This is such a thought-provoking and moving essay! Thank you for writing it.

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Harun Kewa's avatar

Thank you for your kind words, Shreya! I’m glad you like it.

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Bakare Moshood's avatar

Great job Harun! Learning this early in life saves one a lot of stress.

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Harun Kewa's avatar

Thanks, Moshood! It definitely does help a lot to learn this early!

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Harneek Chawla's avatar

I loved the analogy Harun, relationship are indeed like waterfalls. They have a course and obviously it’s very hard to end a relationship but no point of continuing it when it’s already dead.

Recently, I witnessed the more you stay in a dead relationship, the harder it is to let go as time passes.

Thank you for these reminders and wisdom😊

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Harun Kewa's avatar

It’s very important to know when to let go. Thank you, Harneek!

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Ingrid Haring-Mendes's avatar

Wise words, Harun.

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Harun Kewa's avatar

Thank you, Ingrid!

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Odinakachi Nwonu's avatar

This analogy makes a truckload of sense! I love the imageries it evokes. You’re completely right, Harun. Relationships are indeed like waterfalls. They run their course and then evaporate. Heavy thing to digest, though. 😔

Thanks for sharing as usual and a huge congratulations on your new milestone. Well deserved!

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Harun Kewa's avatar

It definitely is tough but we have to accept it for the sake of our wellbeing. Thank you so much, Odinakachi. I appreciate the support.

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Paul Wittenberger's avatar

Congratulations, Harun, on your subscription milestone—a good indication that you’re doing something valuable by putting Salient Wisdom out into the world!

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Harun Kewa's avatar

Thanks a lot, Paul! I appreciate the support!

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