When asked for an opinion, for example on an outfit, an option would be to find the one thing, no matter how small that would compliment it. The colour is lovely. I love that shade of blue. The detail in the collar is amazing.
Yup. That really makes it all a lot easier because sometimes the truth is ugly (as you pointed out). We must accept it ourselves but never force people to accept it. We can always encourage respectfully.
The truth wakes us up from our state of ignorance. Whether it's good or bad, it's always true and real. Real life is hard but a delusion is dangerous. It's a very vast and interesting topic, isn't it?
Truth can be ambiguous because it has the power to liberate and empower, it can also make us feel uncomfortable and vulnerable. Interestingly, people tend to fall into two situations: those who shy away from the truth because it disrupts their comfort zone, and those who actively seek it out as a catalyst for growth and learning. I've found myself in situations where I'm asked for my honest opinion, and I always ask for clarification in their intentions: are they seeking truth for growth or comfort? I firmly believe that truth can be shared in a way that is both authentic and compassionate, by discerning the RIGHT WORDS AND TONE that come from a place of love and respect for the other person.
I agree on the need to clarify why people are seeking the truth. It makes it easier to know how to deliver the truth to people. The truth is a bitter pill that must be administered carefully.
Thank you for your comment! I am glad this resonated with you, Yoli.
It’s true that truth, while an essential virtue, can sometimes act as a double-edged sword. The challenge lies in discerning when honesty serves a constructive purpose and when it might cause unnecessary harm. Sometimes, it’s not the truth itself but the manner in which it is conveyed that shapes its impact.
Truth becomes toxic if it’s used in a derogatory manner. One must assess the situation and determine whether the truth will serve a purpose or merely denigrate. Very insightful, thank you for sharing Harun!
You've got a point, Harun! We should strive for a balance where truth serves a constructive purpose. It's true, truth, like medicine, should be administered thoughtfully and with care.
When i first started as a recruiter selling my services, i always felt like i had to NOT lie but embellish the truth a little. This ties into Yolanda's comment about truths being ambiguous, which i strongly agree with. Great article Harun!
Something that I'm glad I didn't have to learn the hard way was: It's not what you say but how you say it. This is something that I see in feedback and even simple compliments. The 'how' goes further in getting across your meaning than the 'what'.
When asked for an opinion, for example on an outfit, an option would be to find the one thing, no matter how small that would compliment it. The colour is lovely. I love that shade of blue. The detail in the collar is amazing.
I do the same. I focus on the positive and try to not say the negative if not asked.
Thank you for engaging, Ingrid!
Yup. That really makes it all a lot easier because sometimes the truth is ugly (as you pointed out). We must accept it ourselves but never force people to accept it. We can always encourage respectfully.
The truth wakes us up from our state of ignorance. Whether it's good or bad, it's always true and real. Real life is hard but a delusion is dangerous. It's a very vast and interesting topic, isn't it?
It truly is and one that no doubt will viewed differently by many.
Truth can be ambiguous because it has the power to liberate and empower, it can also make us feel uncomfortable and vulnerable. Interestingly, people tend to fall into two situations: those who shy away from the truth because it disrupts their comfort zone, and those who actively seek it out as a catalyst for growth and learning. I've found myself in situations where I'm asked for my honest opinion, and I always ask for clarification in their intentions: are they seeking truth for growth or comfort? I firmly believe that truth can be shared in a way that is both authentic and compassionate, by discerning the RIGHT WORDS AND TONE that come from a place of love and respect for the other person.
Love this essay Harun! Thank you! ❤️
I agree on the need to clarify why people are seeking the truth. It makes it easier to know how to deliver the truth to people. The truth is a bitter pill that must be administered carefully.
Thank you for your comment! I am glad this resonated with you, Yoli.
It’s true that truth, while an essential virtue, can sometimes act as a double-edged sword. The challenge lies in discerning when honesty serves a constructive purpose and when it might cause unnecessary harm. Sometimes, it’s not the truth itself but the manner in which it is conveyed that shapes its impact.
Absolutely loved reading this essay, Harun!
I couldn’t agree more. I am glad you liked it, Mohika.
Thank you for commenting!
Truth becomes toxic if it’s used in a derogatory manner. One must assess the situation and determine whether the truth will serve a purpose or merely denigrate. Very insightful, thank you for sharing Harun!
Spot on, Bansi! The truth must be delivered carefully.
You've got a point, Harun! We should strive for a balance where truth serves a constructive purpose. It's true, truth, like medicine, should be administered thoughtfully and with care.
I’m glad this resonated with you, Mo. The truth is a slippery slope.
Telling the truth all the time is absolutism. You should say things because you have objectives to accomplish, not hear the sweetness of your words.
Tell the truth to those who want and can make use of it. Don't lie to the others, just wait for their time to come.
Timing is an art in the application of virtues, and one skilled enough to be virtuous will know when to say and not say some things.
I couldn’t have put it better! Thank you for this, Patrick!
When i first started as a recruiter selling my services, i always felt like i had to NOT lie but embellish the truth a little. This ties into Yolanda's comment about truths being ambiguous, which i strongly agree with. Great article Harun!
Right there with you mate! It’s important to know how to deliver the truth. Otherwise, it can be easily misinterpreted. Thanks, Prince!
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The more helpful question would be Love will set you free. Truths can be tricky unless it is the absolute Truth which is we are God (Love)
Something that I'm glad I didn't have to learn the hard way was: It's not what you say but how you say it. This is something that I see in feedback and even simple compliments. The 'how' goes further in getting across your meaning than the 'what'.
Absolutely! The tone of delivery is everything.